Sarah from Creating Contentment has a fantastic post for us to read today. I can identify with what she has written and have been working hard to let go of certain aspects myself… I hope you enjoy the read, and look forward to your comments.
Make your plan, do your best and lt go of the results.
This is the art of surrender.
This is also, mostly a letter to myself. A list to remind myself of what is needed. But, I’m assuming that my experiences are not unique. As different as each individual is, I believe that there is a common thread between us. I believe that the human experience, that is what it means to be human, is the same, regardless of status, location, age or gender.
So, we need to surrender to the world, to fate, to the gods or whatever you call it. To recognise that the future cannot be manipulated into how you anticipate it occurring.
This is about letting go of control, of going with the flow. Of freeing up constraints so to open yourself up to opportunities.
It is also means that you need to recognise that you cannot control how others perceive you. That your best may not be reflected in the best result. And that this is okay.
Surrendering is difficult. It is recognising your fallibility, that you are human and are capable of vulnerability and regret. It is hard because you need to face yourself honestly, to see your faults and your strengths.
You need to let go off your results.
I mean this literally as well as metaphorically.
Study your best, put in all your effort and then let it go. The mark you receive is out of your control.
Eat well. Make good choices. But good health, or weight loss is ultimately out of your control.
We need to not worry about the future. It only stirs anxiety and stress, creating a mental darkness that swamps our present day pleasure. Don’t let a possible negative outweigh the present moment.
All this is a learning curve. It is hard. I am struggling with it. I don’t want to see my faults. But only when I can see them, only then can I improve.
This is acceptance. This is accepting myself as I am, warts and all. This is the possibility when you let go of your results.
Do you beat yourself up when you don’t perform the way you hoped? Or are you good at letting it go? Any tips for me?