The Jar – Project 2015…

In yesterday’s post Project 2015 in a Jar {Positivity, Happiness, Thankfulness & Direction}, I wrote about how I was going to use a positivity jar as I had in 2014. I found this experience to be so rewarding. Getting to the end of the year and reading back all the moments, days and people that had a very positive and uplifting effect on my life was fantastic. I could actually see when my outlook had changed, when finding positives was not so difficult because I would look around and see mainly positives. The words I would say to people, the advice or support I would give was so much more positive; to be strong and keep going, believe in yourself, you CAN do this, look around – there is brightness everywhere.

Now, 2014 was a year I absolutely struggled. I had MANY ‘down’ moments. Times when I felt lost, trapped or afraid. The difference this year is that I honestly believed I could get through it, and that I could move on to an inner calm and brightness that I had not felt in a long time. I was uncertain within myself and which direction I wanted to move forward in, had doubts about my career, there was family illness and my health suffered too even resulting in surgery. I do not look back and only see tears and anger. I look back and see determination, laughter, love, resilience and strength. I didn’t do it alone, but I became aware of how much I can handle on my own. That I can put my own struggle aside and help another.

Reflecting on those coloured bits of paper helped me see how far I have come {note – not all pictured}.

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Here are some of the highlights of last year (I limited to 10, as honestly there were way too many!)

1. Realising as 2014 began that in less than a year I’d be back in my favourite city – New York City

2. Knowing a loved one who was struggling with an awful illness had amazing specialists team behind them.

3. Spending a lot of time with my younger brother and having DVD marathons.

4. The many catch ups and coffees with friends

5. Getting precious one on one time with my Mum – we had a few lunch dates and had the best conversations that were random, funny and heartfelt.

6. Planning, booking and flying to USA with my two friends L + C; celebrating 2014 and bringing in the New Year at an event in Times Square in New York City {major bucket list item ticked!}

7. House-sitting in a great location right near one of the local beaches – really uplifted my mood during a struggle period!

8. Spending an evening with two of my gorgeous little cousins just before I went away – we went to the beach and enjoyed dinner together.

9. Seeing two of my gorgeous friends marry each other and celebrating at their love filled wedding!

10. Spending time with my friends and their new babies – such a blessing!

here's to 2015!

here’s to 2015!

Ok, so now for Kooklah’s 2015 Positivity Jar …. {I am also going to add “She believed she could and so she did” to the lid}

Ribbon, quote on top and gold stars inside...

Ribbon, quote on top and gold stars inside…

This year has been so amazing already, in so many ways. I hope you will join me in this journey – either by keeping track of my updates, by commenting with some of your own positives, or maybe even starting your own jar. Your project can be the same or different. If you are doing something similar I would love to hear from you!

Kooklah Xo

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Project 2015 in a Jar {Positivity, Happiness, Thankfulness & Direction}

Last year I was on a journey of positivity, happiness and thankfulness. I have long been aware of how fortunate I am despite some harrowing experiences and awful losses. But it can be easy to get caught up in the busy aspects of life and dwell on the negativity.
In Project 2014 in a Jar {Positivity, Happiness & Thankfulness} I decided I would decorate a jar and then write down anything that was positive, a goal that came true, something funny or happy on a piece of paper. This paper is then put into the jar (I usually fold to save space), you can do this daily, weekly or monthly – whatever works for you! At the end of the year the idea is to take them out and read them, a whole year’s worth of positives engulf you at once. How powerful.

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I am doing it again this year. While I was away on holiday, and working a lot I have been writing things down in a notebook and today will convert them to pieces of paper and place in the jar. Later today I will show you my 2015 jar.
This year I have added direction to the project – I have goals and aspects of my life I want to clarify and achieve.

Each day, from today, I am going to upload a photo to my Instagram {@saregiak} and the Kooklah Facebook Page with three positive things.

From last year I noticed that my happiness lifted and I was more positive in my outlook. Which made me more thankful for the experiences I have. I am also thinking about opening the possibility to my loved ones, if they want to contribute to the jar – either about an experience or write something positive about me – as I think reading those affirmations would be a highlight…

How are you injecting more happiness, positivity and thankfulness into your life? Or more direction?

Hope you have had a good day,
Kooklah… xo

KOOKLAH ~ A living doll, living a life not yet imagined

Talk Yourself Positive…

Here is the latest post from Sarah at Creating Contentment, it is all about using affirmations to help increase your positive mindset and make sure that your self-talk is not negative and increase your confidence. I have used various affirmations – but my favourite one at the moment is “She believed she could… and so she DID”, I find this to be very powerful and motivating. Please read on and let us know what you think of this post – I love it, and am so appreciative of the tips that Sarah has included. Find something that works for you, and use it. The best part is one day, you suddenly realise that you believe it!

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Today, I am sharing something that I have learnt.

 
It is possible to use affirmations to increase your positivity.

 
Now, in hindsight, I can see that this lesson was rather obvious, but I had to learn it through doing. Just like it is impossible to tell a women about the hardships of mothering before her first birth, some lessons need to be leant by experiencing them first hand.

 
Despite this, I am going to try and share what I learnt with you. I want YOU to know that you can use affirmations to be more positive. I am hoping that you trust me enough to try my suggestions. I hope that your confidence in me is enough that you will stop listening to your internal voice telling you that you are not enough, and put your faith in mine instead.
My message is this: using affirmations CAN make you feel better!
I use affirmations daily. Not in the formal way of looking in a mirror and talking to yourself. I have tried this, but felt too awkward and silly. Feelings of embarrassment are not conductive to voicing affirmations. Affirmations need to be believed. Therefore, when using affirmations, speak naturally. You need to believe that you are speaking the truth. And that the truth comes with the conviction of a kind friend.
Affirmations are simple statements that enhances your creative power for change. Writing your own affirmations can bring clarity to your thoughts allowing you to focus on what you really want. Speaking the words aloud allows your body to have the sensation of speaking, hearing and feeling the words as you say them. And, your feelings become engrossed in these sensations. Use your emotions to bring further life to your affirmations.

 
Or, meditate on your affirmations, like I do. Repeat the phrase over and over, feeling the words in your entire body. I try and visualise the ‘truth’ of the words and what that would look like for me.
Affirmations are personal. They should reflect your wants, your dreams, what you need from your life. That said, some of my favourite affirmations are vague enough to be relevant to many people. So, because YOU are wonderful, I shall share some of them with you.

I am beautiful.
I am worthy of exercise.
I am strong enough to do what is needed of me.
I am grounded on and supported by this earth.
I am safe and secure. All that I need will be provided for me.
I choose to make healthy choices.
I am healing. I am healed.
I am willing to believe that I can forgive.
I believe I can be happy.
I choose to stand tall and be proud.
I am actively creating my own contentment.
I am loved.

 

You need to believe the affirmation that you use. If you cannot believe the statement “I am beautiful”, change it to “I am willing to believe that I am beautiful”, or “I can choose to be beautiful”. Change the language of the statement so to make it more believable. Notice the variations of language that I use on my affirmations above. Some statements I am still distancing myself from, so that I can still believe in the truth of the statement. And that is ok. Like everything, this is a journey towards my improvement. If I was already ‘better’, there would be no need of improvement now would there? Start where you are, and take a small step … in any direction. That direction IS forward. And you, my friend, are worthy of betterment.
Perhaps one of these could be your first affirmation?
1. “I am willing to believe that I am worthy of betterment” or
2. “I believe that I am worthy of betterment” or
3. “I am worthy of betterment”.
What level/ number/ stage are you at, for this affirmation?

 
Do you like the affirmations I use? Are there any there that you could believe if you told them to yourself? Will you start telling yourself affirmations?
I would love to know if you already use affirmations, what words you tell yourself. Please leave a comment and let me know.

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