Add a small spark…

I have been feeling pretty low lately. It will take me a little bit to get back to normal, to the happiness I found during my 100 days challenge (I really really will do an overview post soon) … but today I did things for me.

I had a day where I just followed my instincts for what I wanted to do. I had errands to run, work or housework today but I left those and attended to a day that would be good for the soul.

I first enjoyed a sleep in, followed by a walk with my dog and then a stroll over to my favourite beauty salon Little Miss Gorgeous for a manicure I had booked in this morning. It was while there, talking to the beauty therapist that I decided I needed to inject and add some sparkle to my day. I have an obsession with all things glittery, sparkly or embellished {most likely a leftover piece of my childhood}… I had been about to choose a standard colour for my nails, when I came across a colour called ‘ruby glitz’, the name and colour reminds me of Dorothy’s brilliant shoes in The Wizard of Oz … they glisten in the light and are making me smile when I look at them.

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My afternoon consisted of playing with makeup and watching multiple episodes of an old favourite Gilmore Girls. It was during this that I injected more sparkle through eye makeup, creating my look for today’s Fox in Flats Style Dare and I have loved it so much that I’m only just taking it off now.

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I will do a post soon with a ‘how to’ for this glitter eye look,  for now head to my instagram feed {saregiak} for a hint of the products and other shots!

Hope you’re having a good night,
More soon!
KOOKLAH ‘a living doll, living a life not yet imagined’

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Three words to watch..

How often do you have someone ask about you? The ‘how are you’, ‘how are things going’ or ‘how have you been’ ?

Every day? Or every second? I think it is a pretty usual part of life. From family, friends, coworkers and sometimes even strangers. Another way in which we can connect and share with others.

Are you ready for my next question? Here it is …

Do you answer honestly? You don’t have to spill to every single person who greets you in a day, BUT to your people – the ones you want to know about, support and celebrate life with – how do you reply?

I have been holding onto this thought for a while now this year. Mostly because I found myself to be answering automatically and quickly. As if I was on some kind of auto pilot, or like I didn’t want to ‘bother’ people.
How ridiculous, especially if these are people who love and care for you – they most likely want to know that you feel sad, low, angry, happy, ecstatic or balanced.

I found myself using three words often…
* Alright * Ok * Fine *

They are not feelings, they are noncommittal words that brush the question or person away. I’m trying really hard lately to avoid these words staying in my everyday vocabulary.

It is perfectly acceptable to say how you feel. I hope you know that, or learn it. As I have learnt.

Watch out for the repeated use of those three words.. they can trigger that maybe something just isn’t OK.

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KOOKLAH ‘a living doll, living a life not yet imagined..’ XO

.:.:.:. KOOKLAH .:.:.:.

Guest Post: Let go of your results

Sarah from Creating Contentment has a fantastic post for us to read today. I can identify with what she has written and have been working hard to let go of certain aspects myself… I hope you enjoy the read, and look forward to your comments.
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Make your plan, do your best and lt go of the results.

This is the art of surrender.

This is also, mostly a letter to myself. A list to remind myself of what is needed. But, I’m assuming that my experiences are not unique. As different as each individual is, I believe that there is a common thread between us. I believe that the human experience, that is what it means to be human, is the same, regardless of status, location, age or gender.

So, we need to surrender to the world, to fate, to the gods or whatever you call it. To recognise that the future cannot be manipulated into how you anticipate it occurring.

This is about letting go of control, of going with the flow. Of freeing up constraints so to open yourself up to opportunities.

It is also means that you need to recognise that you cannot control how others perceive you. That your best may not be reflected in the best result. And that this is okay.

Surrendering is difficult. It is recognising your fallibility, that you are human and are capable of vulnerability and regret. It is hard because you need to face yourself honestly, to see your faults and your strengths.

You need to let go off your results.

I mean this literally as well as metaphorically.

Study your best, put in all your effort and then let it go. The mark you receive is out of your control.

Eat well. Make good choices. But good health, or weight loss is ultimately out of your control.

We need to not worry about the future. It only stirs anxiety and stress, creating a mental darkness that swamps our present day pleasure. Don’t let a possible negative outweigh the present moment.

All this is a learning curve. It is hard. I am struggling with it. I don’t want to see my faults. But only when I can see them, only then can I improve.

This is acceptance. This is accepting myself as I am, warts and all. This is the possibility when you let go of your results.

Do you beat yourself up when you don’t perform the way you hoped? Or are you good at letting it go? Any tips for me?

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100 Days of Happy

A few of my friends’ photos drew me in over the last couple of days. They were celebrating happiness. It has been lovely to see. I think life gets busy and we can often forget to take some time to let ourselves be happy.

Following what I had seen in these photos and their hashtags I did some research via Google… I came across 100 Happy Days,  a site that created a challenge for the individual, not to compete, but a something to engage in that celebrates daily happiness and can be used as a daily reminder to really appreciate those happy moments!

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It is pretty simple to take part, if you click the link you’ll be able to read more information {including the reason why 71% of people failed to complete this task} AND sign up.
But basically you upload a shot, to the medium of your choice, of something that made you happy that day. When uploading use the tag : #100happydays which will group your shots with everyone participating {you can also use your own tag, which was suggested for privacy}. I’m using #100happy days plus my own #happykooklah to group mine together on my preferred medium.

I love the idea, I don’t think of it as meaning you need to be happy 24/7 but instead that I am making a commitment to an increasingly happy life! I signed up last night and nominated today as my first day. I am about to upload my first shot to instagram, where I will be sharing {search for @saregiak + follow me or use the tags mentioned}.. they will also be shared on twitter and every ten days in wrap up posts on Kooklah.

My reason for joining is to use it as another tool to improve my mood, mindset and mental health. To be honest, I want to blast a whole lot of sunshine into depression’s black cloud of sadness, self doubt and isolation.

I hope you’ll join me! I think this will help many people to improve their lives. As my friend Peta said to me today “Good things happen to you if you are happy”.
If you are joining in, let me know so I can look out for your shots.

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Here’s to happy,

Kooklah Xo – p.s like Kooklah on Facebook {you can soon look forward to more updates, photos and interaction X}

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Clutter + Mental Clarity

For my fortnightly guest post for Sarah at Creating Contentment I shared something I learnt in the last two weeks, how clutter can affect our state of mind. Find an excerpt below, then click the link to head over to Sarah’s blog to read the rest… Don’t forget to let me know what you think! Kooklah Xo

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It was during this week, as I was coming and going from work, with a few piles of belongings I was sorting through and some deconstructed furniture lying around that I felt really low… I found the clutter only added to my frustration, it made me feel dragged down and overloaded.

I have come to realise that our mental state is very much influenced by the area in which we spend the most amount of time. This realisation is fantastic and such a positive step in my journey.

Happy mind, happy life.

For the rest, click the link at the top of the post. Have a brilliant day…

Ask the Question… Guest post for Creating Contentment

For today’s guest post on Creating Contentment, I have written about something close to my heart. Something I try to do, and something I appreciate when people do it to me. It is reaching out and offering help, a shoulder or listening ear to those who need it. Below I have included an excerpt of the post. ‘Ask the Question’ in full post form {+ a post dedication – the first post I have officially dedicated to someone} can be read here.. we would love to read your comments and/or stories so feel free to share with us.

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I can see your mind ticking over, what question? There are many questions that come our way everyday. The question I am referring to, is not specific, it can be asked in many different ways. It is about reaching out to someone and making sure they have their head above water. It could be a friend, a family member, a work colleague or someone you pass by throughout the day – it could even be something to ask yourself.

If someone is really low, they can be very good with hiding it. Big smiles that don’t quite reach the eyes, answering with ‘fine’, or big pauses before saying good and quickly changing subjects or even avoiding people they know really well.

How do I know this? I know this, because  …… (go on, click over to the full post for the rest!)

Styling Positive,

Kooklah Xo