How often do you have someone ask about you? The ‘how are you’, ‘how are things going’ or ‘how have you been’ ?
Every day? Or every second? I think it is a pretty usual part of life. From family, friends, coworkers and sometimes even strangers. Another way in which we can connect and share with others.
Are you ready for my next question? Here it is …
Do you answer honestly? You don’t have to spill to every single person who greets you in a day, BUT to your people – the ones you want to know about, support and celebrate life with – how do you reply?
I have been holding onto this thought for a while now this year. Mostly because I found myself to be answering automatically and quickly. As if I was on some kind of auto pilot, or like I didn’t want to ‘bother’ people.
How ridiculous, especially if these are people who love and care for you – they most likely want to know that you feel sad, low, angry, happy, ecstatic or balanced.
I found myself using three words often…
* Alright * Ok * Fine *
They are not feelings, they are noncommittal words that brush the question or person away. I’m trying really hard lately to avoid these words staying in my everyday vocabulary.
It is perfectly acceptable to say how you feel. I hope you know that, or learn it. As I have learnt.
Watch out for the repeated use of those three words.. they can trigger that maybe something just isn’t OK.
KOOKLAH ‘a living doll, living a life not yet imagined..’ XO
.:.:.:. KOOKLAH .:.:.:.