Clutter + Mental Clarity

For my fortnightly guest post for Sarah at Creating Contentment I shared something I learnt in the last two weeks, how clutter can affect our state of mind. Find an excerpt below, then click the link to head over to Sarah’s blog to read the rest… Don’t forget to let me know what you think! Kooklah Xo

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It was during this week, as I was coming and going from work, with a few piles of belongings I was sorting through and some deconstructed furniture lying around that I felt really low… I found the clutter only added to my frustration, it made me feel dragged down and overloaded.

I have come to realise that our mental state is very much influenced by the area in which we spend the most amount of time. This realisation is fantastic and such a positive step in my journey.

Happy mind, happy life.

For the rest, click the link at the top of the post. Have a brilliant day…

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A Dream to Work On…

Hi lovely readers, today is my turn to be a guest blogger on Creating Contentment … you can look forward to regular fortnightly guest blogger posts from Creating Contentment’s Sarah {have you read last week’s called Thoughts … If not, do!} My post today is about an effective way to work on your dreams as well as some suggestions of how to do this.

Here is a little sneak preview:

I know some people who think that having their dreams come true, are life’s little miracles with no or little effort required whilst others believe that hard work is the way to make dreams and our deepest desires reality. There are, of course, many options and ways to interpret this little saying and I want to share mine with you, as well as how I am using that to achieve my own version of dreams coming true.

Taking some time at the end of 2013 to reflect I was able to identify what elements are the most important to me in day to day life. The qualities I found were daily elements of happiness, positivity and reflection. It might sound really basic, but…..

For the full post, click here

Styling Positive,

Kooklah * Sarah

Project 2014 in a Jar {Happiness, Positivity & Thankfulness}

Sparkle - pic from Pinterest.com

Sparkle – pic from Pinterest.com

Hope and positivity have always been important to me… it is not always an easy thing to maintain. 2013 was a year of extremes for me, there were exhilarating highs and devastating lows. Due to these lows I struggled with my anxiety and depression in different ways to previous years. Sometimes I found it really hard to reach out to others and I spent the majority of the year feeling alone, lost and sad. Despite this I tried incredibly hard to push myself if a new experience or joyful moment presented itself. What these experiences showed me, is that life can be pretty wonderful, even in the smallest and most fleeting of moments. They should and need to be celebrated.

This brings me to For the Style Seeking Girl’s 2014 project, “For the Positive Seeking Girl” a way to keep focused on the positive aspects of life including silver linings and unexpected inspiring moments. Each day I choose 3 positives from my day then upload to Instagram and Twitter with #forthepositiveseekinggirl and #threepositivesdaily, each month I will do a summary post on the blog. I am also uploading a ‘Quote of the Day’ to Instagram/Twitter/Facebook. With this project you can look forward to more positive and happy searching posts. I am hoping that people will join in – whether for one day, everyday or random days every now and then.

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Part two of the project is something I am very excited about! I came across the idea on Pinterest, you take a jar and decorate it {label, stickers, glitter, ribbons}.

Then for the whole of 2014, every time something happens that is good, fun, inspiring, positive or makes you smile, laugh or cry with joy, goals that you achieve, wishes that come true – write in down on a piece of paper and put it into the jar. What you end up with is a full jar of amazing experiences and moments from a full year, from big moments to the small things. There is no limit to how much or many you write. I am going to write mine on different coloured pieces of paper to make it more fun… The idea is to read them at the end of the year, but I also think when I am having difficult days I will read a couple to give inspiration. I am calling my jar ‘2014’s Sparkle’

Here is my jar:

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For further memory, positive or happy jar inspirations look to Harvard Homemaker, Jaden from Steamy Kitchen or Rebecca Kelsey – don’t forget Pinterest is great for inspiration pictures and ideas too! {I just searched positivity jar}

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What do you think of this idea? Are you doing this or something similar? Let me know if you are joining me for a brighter, more positive 2014!

Happy {early} New Year, Sarah Xo

Seeking Positivity, Happiness and Gratitude…

For the Style Seeking Girl celebrates beauty, fashion and styling… but with emphasis on promoting confidence, self worth and individuality. As Audrey famously said, happy girls are the prettiest.

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I have been pretty open about my struggles with anxiety and depression, I have faced many challenges and have overcome a lot of them. I am still working through more – but life will always throw challenges our way. For two years I have been inspired by an idea my psychologist gave me – each day think of three positives, little or big, simple or complicated and use them as a reminder that even the darkest days can have a glimmer of hope. I write these down each day and they are so much fun to look back on. Over the last few years I have created lists of items to achieve (some silly and many serious) and have had so much fun ticking them off. These are separate to a bucket list, a friend of mine told me that she loved them as ‘they are a commitment to loving life’

So For the Style Seeking Girl is taking positivity and marching in. YOU the reader, can look forward to posts under the sub section of ‘For the Positive Seeking Girl’. There will be real life accounts, guest posts, happiness guides, how-to self care, recognising three positives for each day and inspiring moments. I look forward to injecting some positive, happy and life loving posts into this blog and hope you enjoy it too.

I will expand on this idea in a future post, but there are two hashtags to use if you want to join in. If there is a moment you want to share that has given you peace, joy, happiness, laughter or love – something positive or something that you are thankful for, use the tag #forthepositiveseekinggirl … I will be aiming to share my three positives each day on instagram and twitter {I will try and find different ones for each day, and occasionally different ways to share them}, anyone is welcome to join, if you are doing it please use the #forthepositiveseekinggirl AND #threepositivesdaily …. I encourage you to not overlook the small things.

Drop me a comment if you are joining and I will look out for your posts…

Styling positive,

Sarah / Kooklah Xo

Happily Ever …. When?

I always maintain to friends, family, whoever – that I don’t ‘need’ someone to make me happy. I have a pretty good life all things considered. There have been ups and downs, struggles, many celebrations and heartache. But so many blessings.

I think the thing for me is that I don’t feel like I so much ‘need’ someone but I am starting to realise that I might just want someone.. To have someone that I can share life with, take new adventures with and someone to experience the simple, silly or complicated and amazing aspects of life with. I’m ready for that, and I am not closing myself off as much as I used to..

But it doesn’t just happen like that, for most people anyway outside of the realm of Hollywood. In the movies – romantic comedies – the guy and girl usually end up together, I think this is to provide the audience with a happy story, some hope and to continue to hold on to that belief that true love exists. Now don’t get me wrong, I am not sitting here writing this to end up telling you that I don’t believe in true love, because I do, I have seen it and I grew up in a household where my parents were {and still are} completely in love and committed to one another. I just think sometimes, give us single girls a break – I am actually refreshed with a movie where they don’t end up together or you are at least made to think, until the very last second that maybe, it might just not work out. My absolute favourite movie is ‘A lot like Love’, if you haven’t seen it – go rent it and watch it. I don’t want to ruin the ending for anyone but the tagline is ‘sometimes it takes six years to fall in love at first sight’. It isn’t your overly predictable you-know-what-will-happen-in-five-minutes movie and it has a lot of heart.

Just once, and maybe for my own amusement, I don’t want the happy ending – show me the girl upset and downing a bucket of ice cream or having a drunken cry with a friend as the camera pans out and credits roll… the thing is, that it is not always so easy to find someone who you are comfortable, compatible and spark with. I know, I know ‘things find you when you aren’t looking for it’ …  So I guess for now I am meant to stop looking..                                                                                                                                                                                                                          I don’t know how many times though I have been at an event where the questions come thick and fast … for any single girl these questions would come to mind pretty quickly – the why are you single, don’t you want a boyfriend, how many of your friends are married? These little questions, which may be asked without malice, plant little seeds of doubt. Creating little dints in the armour we wear. I know I am not alone, many of my single friends have shared the same sentiment..

So you put yourself out there, and then the guy isn’t interested which is fine, I’m not always either! Or you start talking and all of a sudden the contact stops, you have no answers, you can’t pin point anything that you ‘have done wrong’, and then your own questions roll in. If the contact stops my friend Lee and I decided that the girl should reach out once, maybe twice and then if no response – get that phone, delete the messages and don’t look back. One thing I have decided lately, is that there is NO reason why it has to be your fault, if you honestly have no idea, I want you to remember this “I am FABULOUS,” smile, make sure your invisible crown is on and hold your head high. You don’t need someone who acts like you are just an option.

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As for me I am just going to keep an open mind and take a chance on the opportunities that come my way. Happily Ever After? I think that is up to me to define.. Been content with who I am, the things that I have achieved and having amazing experiences with the friends and family I love most sounds pretty happy to me. Anything else is just a bonus.

S.xo