Guest Post: Goodbyes

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Goodbyes can be difficult. Saying goodbye to someone can be full of heartbreak and a moment of loss.

Of course in our modern technological laden world, a goodbye doesn’t need to be permanent. There are many ways we can keep in contact with someone despite them leaving. This is the joy of social media.

It is time for me to say goodbye. I have written a semi-regular fortnightly guest post for Kooklah for almost six months. It is now time for this stage to come to an end. My blog is growing and I am enjoying putting too much time and energy into it. I want to focus upon my blog in this time of growth. So, unfortunately I need to stop my regular contributions to Kooklah.

I love the style that Kooklah radiates. She is truly beautiful. And, her knowledge! I love this post on embracing headscarfs. I refer to it often and practice at home!

Perhaps one day, I’ll share my writing here again.

I trust that you will continue to be a positive seeking girl. I hope that you will come and visit me at Creating Contentment if you need some more inspiration, but Kooklah is on her own wellbeing journey and can also give you motivation and guidance to become the positive seeking girls you want to be. And you can be! I promise. It just takes a little bit of work, and a whole lot of practice. I speak from experience.

So, smile cause you’re beautiful. You just need to believe it.

Thank you for letting me into your space and reading my words. It has been such a pleasure. I have loved this experience. Writing here has helped me grow and learn. I will always be grateful.

So, goodbye. Take care.

And remember if you want to stay in touch, there are many ways to contact me. xS

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Thankyou to Sarah for this open and honest post, your lovely words will be missed. I wish your own blog well, and look forward to clicking over to read your future posts. KOOKLAH xo

Slow Down

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More often than not I find myself getting to the end of a day and wondering where the time went. I always feel like there are one or two items that I had planned to complete that day and for whatever reason, have not. This used to stress me out. By used to I am talking about as recently as last week.

In the past week I think my body has wanted me to slow down, and not take on as many projects at once. I only have two hands, and giving myself unrealistic deadlines won’t give me more. I became sick out of nowhere ….

As I spent many, many hours resting and recuperating I decided that this was my chance to recharge,  and try to make the most of not having to go anywhere or do anything. I also spent some time reflecting on how I go about completing my day to day tasks ….

To read on further, click over to my latest guest post on Creating Contentment. I hope you enjoy it, let me know what you think and if your body has ever forced a uncontrollable slow down on you…

Sarah ☆ KOOKLAH

 

 

Give a Gift to Everyone You Meet

I am thrilled to be sharing this post with you all {uploading late – sorry!}, a brilliant post gifted to us from Sarah at Creating Contentment with an important message. In life we all give and take, but do we all give enough of ourselves to others? Do we even recognise the gift we have, that we are? It was lovely to read this after a testing week and reflect on what I have to offer….
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I came across this line recently and think it rather lovely.

Give The Gift Of You.
YOU are a gift. Share this gift with everyone you meet. Now of course, I don’t mean a literal gift.

Smile at others. Ask after their day. Be kind. Be polite. Listen to people.

The simple act of smiling releases endorphins making you feel happier.

Being kind towards others encourages more kindness. 

By asking the girl at the supermarket how she is, you will develop ties with your community and strong community ties are important for a healthy wellbeing. 

Developing a sense of community can be difficult. You need to put yourself out there. You need to give yourself to the community. But before you can gift yourself to others, you need to believe yourself to be a worthy gift. And I am here to tell you that you are!

I too, have struggled to integrate myself in my local community, especially my children’s school. There are lots of articles like this one that describe the mother ‘types’ at schools and explore the difficulties of the school years. I find such articles unhelpful and hurtful. In this one in particular, I am five of the different mother types listed. It is judgmental and encourages stereotypes. I hope that other mothers can look at me for who I am, rather than the mother that sends her child to school with kale chips. Or, feel the need to be nasty because I enjoy dressing up to drop the kids off. 

If you want to meet new people, a common suggestion given is to do new things. So I signed up to do heaps of stuff at the boys school. I was (and am) on committees and boards, I volunteer in the classroom and help out on excursions. I’m often early to pick up my children and like to chat with other mums and teachers in the school yard. I hang around long after the last bell to give my children a run around on the oval and the playground. I feel like I am almost always there and am very willing to help. Yet, despite all this effort on my part, I didn’t feel ‘in’ or accepted. I still didn’t feel as if other mothers were being friendly towards me or as if I belonged to the school community.  

Over the summer holidays, I decided that a big part of this equation is me. I can control what I do and how I am. So, I decided to be happy (at school). I have decided to smile more. I have decided to approach other mothers, rather than stand apart. I decided to make eye contact. I now always say good morning. I ask how they are. I participate in the school community because I want to, rather than because I am needed.

There is more to community than simply going along. You need to give yourself to others.

It is for this reason that I also share a photo of myself everyday on Facebook and Instagram. I am putting myself out there as a gift. I hope that I am received well, but ultimately that is not something I can control so I am trying not to worry about it. 

But essentially, it is basic physics. Karma if you like. What you put out, you will receive. I am going to be friendly so to make friends. I am going to give myself, so that others will give themselves back to me.

Being apart of a community is something I value, and studies show that it is an important part of a persons healthy wellbeing. So, not only am I going along to everything but I am going to have fun and be joyful, smile and be positive. It does not matter how others perceive my behaviour, I cannot control the amount of themselves they give me. But, I am going to give myself, because I am worth giving.

What do you think? Am I onto something here?

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December’s Arrived..

So here we are. Suddenly it is December. Where did that year go?

I honestly feel that overall the year has flown. As I sit down to write this post I look back to what was happening in my life at this time last year.. family birthdays, my own birthday + big celebratory dinner with 25 friends, drunken nights with friends I grew up with – creating memories AND writing our bucket lists then a cocktail party for New Years Eve.

Those memories seem so close but yet so far away. I’ve had a love/hate relationship with this year. I ticked off many bucket list items including going skydiving, I’ve made new friends but have lost touch with some old ones, I’ve loved and definitely lost, my gorgeous Nanna passed away and I fed the travel bug a little more.

For me the biggest thing to come out of this year is that I have recognised I AM strong + capable. I struggle some days and rock through others but the point is I keep going. I learnt this year that the opinion about you that matters most, is yours

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How do I see myself? I see myself as someone who doesn’t have it all together but is trying to. Someone who feels a myriad of emotions regularly, who is passionate for what she believes in, has a voice, is loyal + protective and wants to explore + share as many experiences as possible.

Life is what you make it..

Today is a difficult day for a few reasons and I can’t hide for that. I am happy December is here – there’s my birthday, christmas and the promise of a new year + some foxy fun with the Instagram crew {more on that on my next post!}… after much coercing from my friend A, I have decided to celebrate my birthday – which is in three days and I’m actually so excited!

What does this month bring for you? What has been a high or a low for this year? What did this year teach you?

Sarah x