Why not go alone?


Credit - meetville.com

Credit – meetville.com

I’ve never felt uncomfortable in my own company. Sure I occasionally get lonely, but I try to regularly meet up with family and friends for catch ups over a meal, drinks or movies. This keeps any “lonely” type feeling at bay.

I often crave and love the moments I am at home alone or able to go and spend the day doing anything I fancy. I love it, I’m quite comfortable.

Yes, this means I have gone to a restaurant or cafe and eaten on my own, I’ve gone to gigs to watch a band and I’ve definitely rocked up solo for a movie. The more you do it, the more you realise other people are too – the first time I went to the movies on my own I was surprised to see so many people on their own. I enjoyed it and have done it a few more times… I love doing it when I’ve had a run of low points or stressful situations, it’s nice to tune into a different world and relax.

I am looking forward to my next overseas trip (in 7ish months) as I spend a third with two friends and then travel to a variety of destinations on my own,  I haven’t solo traveled on my own overseas before but as it is my third international trip I figured why not? I am looking forward to having to go by no one’s time but my own, I can skip attractions that don’t interest me and spend more time at those that do. I can have indulging, pampering days and not stress that I am slowing someone down. As Carrie Bradshaw memorably gushed when she was dating her beautiful city, there is so much you can do, everything holds potential for adventure or fun.

I think it is important that everyone has some solo time at some point to clear your mind and recharge… As the quote from Diane states building a relationship and understanding of yourself is important, you will be stronger, independent and have clearer ideals of what you want out of life, experiences and your other relationships.

I’d love to read your views and if you have or haven’t done this.


A little culture goes a long way…

This weekend, on Saturday I went out for a much anticipated breakfast on Darby St with my model friend. It was one of those sunny, really hot days that make you want to lie in the sun all day and listen to music and laugh with friends. A beautiful spring day that makes you even more excited for summer.

Darby St is a collection of little boutiques-designer to vintage and cafes with a few bars and pubs. Think Brunswick St in Melbourne. It is culture central; musos, artists, models, designers eat, play and work here.
It was at this breakfast, on this sunny day where this exhibition of culture was most obvious.

All different styles were on show…eclectic, vintage, on-trend, past seasons, indie and designer brands. No one girl looked the same but they all had something in common-they looked confident, stylish and beautiful. Most of all they had belief in what they were wearing and were comfortable. All of them had different body shapes and were different heights, which affirmed my thinking that no-one should look the same.

When your at school everyone seems to want to fit in, to look the same, talk the same and do the same things. Now I fell into this trap too, until I met a friend who had so much confidence in what she wore and how she wore it that I wanted to be that confident with my clothes as well. From then on, I followed what I liked from new trends and kept my trusty basics. I was in my prime in highschool when I met a group of friends, many musos and artists who had such varied style. It was really inspiring.

Sitting on Darby with my friend-the both of us wearing completley different styles, I was blown away by the culture I was seeing and the mixes of the types of culture. And I remembered the Coco Chanel quote “Fashion is not something that exists in dresses only. Fashion is in the sky, in the street, fashion has to do with ideas, the way we live, what is happening.” {Quote obtained from- http://thinkexist.com/quotations/fashion/}.
I believe this, your culture is something that can provide a definition about you, it is where you are from, who you know, what you do…it is only natural for your culture, your beliefs and your values to influence and infiltrate into your fashion choices.

It’s exciting really, to put an indvidual mark on clothing. To twist the way it is meant to be worn and make it your own. Take the runway for example- those bigger than life pieces seem so unrealistic and usually end up different on the hanger. This is because the designer is allowing you to experience the concepts and styles in their rawest and most pure forms. Breathtaking, exciting and edgy.

I love to look at what people are wearing-what accessories or layers they have chosen, does it match, clash or complement. I have often walked up to complete strangers to tell them they look amazing. You deserve to know, I love it when someone does it to me. I believe everyone can look amazing, you have to believe it, choose clothes and accessories which work for you and most of all sell it.

Think of your everyday life as your own personal runway, people are out there noticing what you are wearing and how you are wearing it. Make your mark, make them notice how you are wearing the clothes, the clothes are not wearing you. and remember, just like on Darby St, a little culture goes a long way…