Guest Post: Let go of your results

Sarah from Creating Contentment has a fantastic post for us to read today. I can identify with what she has written and have been working hard to let go of certain aspects myself… I hope you enjoy the read, and look forward to your comments.
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Make your plan, do your best and lt go of the results.

This is the art of surrender.

This is also, mostly a letter to myself. A list to remind myself of what is needed. But, I’m assuming that my experiences are not unique. As different as each individual is, I believe that there is a common thread between us. I believe that the human experience, that is what it means to be human, is the same, regardless of status, location, age or gender.

So, we need to surrender to the world, to fate, to the gods or whatever you call it. To recognise that the future cannot be manipulated into how you anticipate it occurring.

This is about letting go of control, of going with the flow. Of freeing up constraints so to open yourself up to opportunities.

It is also means that you need to recognise that you cannot control how others perceive you. That your best may not be reflected in the best result. And that this is okay.

Surrendering is difficult. It is recognising your fallibility, that you are human and are capable of vulnerability and regret. It is hard because you need to face yourself honestly, to see your faults and your strengths.

You need to let go off your results.

I mean this literally as well as metaphorically.

Study your best, put in all your effort and then let it go. The mark you receive is out of your control.

Eat well. Make good choices. But good health, or weight loss is ultimately out of your control.

We need to not worry about the future. It only stirs anxiety and stress, creating a mental darkness that swamps our present day pleasure. Don’t let a possible negative outweigh the present moment.

All this is a learning curve. It is hard. I am struggling with it. I don’t want to see my faults. But only when I can see them, only then can I improve.

This is acceptance. This is accepting myself as I am, warts and all. This is the possibility when you let go of your results.

Do you beat yourself up when you don’t perform the way you hoped? Or are you good at letting it go? Any tips for me?

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Time for a Change – Letter to my Readers

 

If you are a regular reader of this blog, you have probably already noticed {+ maybe been confused by} the realisation that this blog has changed from ‘For the Style Seeking Girl’ to Kooklah.

That’s ok. I have written some new information in the about page to explain it to you… I have also adapted that into the following post – a letter for you. It is an exciting change, FTSSG will still be around – this is the category that all the beauty, fashion and styling posts we publish will come under, but you can also look forward to different content and topics for posts.

Looking forward to reading your thoughts + just a little (A LOT) nervous for them too.

Thanks, Kooklah Xo

Hi, I am Sarah the creator & writer from For the Style Seeking Girl, and now Kooklah. From now on not only will this site post about beauty, fashion and styling but also such topics like lifestyle, travel, positivity, mental health awareness, equal rights + current issues.

I have been blogging for ten years, it originally started as a hobby, a vice to indulge my obsession for all things beauty, fashion and styling. I called this ‘For the Style Seeking Girl’, the blog grew from something I wrote just for me to a blog that has been read and shared by many. My aim was to pass on my own passion to others, assisting them to feel beautiful, be confident & sparkle.

As the blog grew and went through different experiences, I did too. I changed blog domains, and at the time thought about changing the name, I was scared to. If I am been honest, I have/had grown quite attached to the name I had created, but started to feel like I had outgrown it. I am no longer a girl, I am a woman, and I have so much more to share. Over the ten years I developed a love and voice for pieces that included lifestyle, travelling, day to day musings and voicing opinions on world issues. I wrote for other people on these issues, even had a side blog to try and release this passion {funnily enough it was called Kooklah} and every now and then I wrote a post FTSSG that wasn’t related to fashion.

I have decided to take my blogging identity of ‘Kooklah’ further and develop it into a fully functioning blog. All of the posts from For the Style Seeking Girl are still available, and can be found in the archives. I’m a dreamer who looks for meaning in life and I wanted to embrace this in my writing.

Kooklah is Greek, and is something that my Dad has affectionately called me – all of my life. It means ‘Living Doll’, I have always used it as a sign off or to brand anything I created. Over time, Kooklah, became a real part of who I am as my creative identity whilst still been affectionately used as a nickname. It feels very fitting that this is now not only my blogging identity but also my blog + website name. My beautiful friend Sarah from Creating Contentment has been a big support to me as I thought long and hard over whether to change things now. It was more emotional for me to do than I thought, but if I didn’t do it now, when would I? {Sarah, I am so grateful to you – thankyou for letting me soundboard my worries, intent and even name ideas off you… it meant a lot to me. Xx}

I really hope my old readers embrace this change, there will still be a large amount of fashion related posts as this is what I LOVE but I am also hoping you will join me in celebrating the other aspects of life too. I look forward to interacting with new readers and seeing how my voice is received on different topics. Have a brilliant day… and please let me know your thoughts! For our latest fashion post read ‘Oscars Fashion’

Currently, each fortnight you can look forward to a post from Sarah at Creating Contentment, as part of a joint project between our blogs to reach out to our readers on topics of positivity, self belief and acceptance. {read Sarah’s latest post Give a Gift to Everyone You Meet}

Sarah Xo